Are You Fueled By What You Do?

Step-by-Step Tutorial: How to Ensure You Are Fueled by Your Actions

1. Identify Your Motivations:

   • Reflect on the activities you engage in daily, whether in relationships, work, or personal pursuits.
   • Ask yourself if you are doing these activities because you genuinely enjoy them or if you are seeking something in return.

2. Focus on Intrinsic Fulfillment:

   • Prioritize activities that inherently bring you joy and satisfaction, rather than solely aiming for external rewards or validation.
   • Consider whether the actions you take feed your energy and provide you with a sense of fulfillment.

3. Evaluate Your Relationships:

   • Assess your interactions with others, especially in relationships.
   • Determine if you engage in caretaking behaviors or other actions with the expectation of receiving something in return.

4. Learn from Examples:

   • Consider the examples of Dedri and Greg from the video.
   • Note how Dedri's actions in golf and caretaking were driven by external expectations, while Greg's passion for basketball and caretaking stemmed from intrinsic motivation.

5. Prioritize Authenticity:

   • Embrace your authentic self and engage in activities that resonate with your true desires and values.
   • Avoid engaging in behaviors solely for the purpose of gaining approval or rewards from others.

6. Avoid Codependent Behaviors:

   • Be mindful of engaging in codependent behaviors where you sacrifice your own well-being to meet others' needs or expectations.
   • Strive to establish healthy boundaries and prioritize self-care in all relationships.

7. Seek Intrinsic Rewards:

   • Strive to find fulfillment in the act of giving and contributing without expecting anything in return.
   • Focus on activities that bring you joy, satisfaction, and a sense of purpose independent of external outcomes.

8. Reflect on Your Actions:

   • Regularly assess whether your actions align with your intrinsic motivations and values.
   • Evaluate if you are genuinely fueled by the activities you engage in or if you are driven by external expectations or rewards.

9. Practice Self-Awareness:

   • Cultivate self-awareness to recognize when you are seeking external validation or engaging in behaviors for the wrong reasons.
   • Prioritize self-reflection to ensure that your actions are in alignment with your true self.

10. Embrace Intrinsic Fulfillment:

    • Embrace activities and relationships that nourish your soul and provide you with genuine fulfillment.
    • Strive to be fueled by what you do, finding joy and satisfaction in the process rather than solely focusing on the outcomes.

By following these steps and reflecting on your motivations and actions, you can ensure that you are truly fueled by the activities you engage in, leading to a more fulfilling and authentic life experience.