Coming Home to YOU - Video #5 on Trauma and Healing series

Introduction

This tutorial focuses on techniques to take control of your inner dialogue and allow love to guide your healing journey, particularly relevant for those dealing with trauma. By learning to manage your Inner Critic, you can foster a more compassionate and supportive mindset, which is essential for personal growth and healing.

Step 1: Recognize Your Inner Critic

• Identify Negative Self-Talk: Pay attention to the thoughts that arise during stressful or challenging situations.
• Journal Your Thoughts: Write down instances where you hear your Inner Critic. This helps to externalize and clarify these negative voices.
• Assess the Impact: Reflect on how these thoughts affect your emotions and actions. Acknowledge that they are not your true self.

Step 2: Challenge the Inner Critic

• Ask Questions: When negative thoughts arise, question their validity.
  • Is this thought based on fact?
  • What evidence do I have that contradicts this thought?
• Reframe the Narrative: Transform negative statements into positive affirmations. For example, change “I always fail” to “I learn and grow from my experiences.”

Step 3: Connect with Your Inner Self

• Practice Mindfulness: Engage in mindfulness exercises such as meditation or deep breathing to center yourself.
• Visualize Love: Imagine a loving presence or a comforting moment. Let this feeling of love fill you, pushing away negative thoughts.
• Engage in Self-Compassion: Treat yourself as you would treat a friend. Use kind words and affirmations to nurture your self-esteem.

Step 4: Allow Love to Lead

• Set Intentions: Start each day with a positive intention rooted in love. For instance, “Today, I will choose kindness and understanding towards myself.”
• Create a Supportive Environment: Surround yourself with people who uplift you and engage in activities that promote joy and connection.
• Practice Gratitude: Regularly acknowledge and appreciate the positive aspects of your life. This shifts focus from negativity to abundance.

Step 5: Implement Regular Check-Ins

• Schedule Reflection Time: Dedicate time weekly to reflect on your progress with your Inner Critic and your practice of self-love.
• Adjust Techniques as Needed: If certain strategies aren’t working, be flexible and try new approaches to find what resonates best with you.
• Seek Professional Help: If you find it challenging to make progress, consider working with a therapist or coach who specializes in trauma and healing.

Conclusion

By recognizing and challenging your Inner Critic, connecting with your inner self, and allowing love to lead, you can create a more positive and nurturing internal dialogue. Remember to practice regularly and be patient with yourself as you navigate this journey. Consider integrating these steps into your routine, and don't hesitate to seek support when needed. The path to healing is ongoing, but with commitment and love, you can make significant strides toward a healthier mindset.