The Secret To Becoming Confident - The 'Let Them' Theory

How to Overcome Fear of Public Speaking Using Detachment Techniques

1. Understand the Root Cause: Recognize that fear of public speaking stems from a fear of judgment or negative evaluation from others.

2. Practice Detachment: Realize that people's opinions of you hold less power than you think. Stop overanalyzing how you come across to others and focus on living for yourself.

3. Let Them Theory: Create distance from others' opinions by letting them think whatever they like. By doing so, you take back control over your thoughts and actions, leading to a happier and more content life.

4. Law of Reversed Effort: The more you desire approval from others, the more difficult it becomes to achieve. Care less and stop trying to control the situation to begin relaxing and overcoming social anxiety.

5. Grounding Techniques: In moments of anxiety, focus on your breathing and your environment to quiet your mind and gain mental distance from the situation. Name five things you can see and five things you can hear to bring yourself into the present moment.

6. Take Responsibility: Ask yourself how you will feel about the situation in five years. Take ownership of the problem and decide whether you want to remain nervous or become a confident version of yourself.

7. Impression Management: Act like a successful version of yourself in high-pressure situations to gain confidence. Channel the energy of a character you admire, such as Tony Stark from the movie, to help you remain calm and confident.

8. Practice and Exposure: With practice and exposure to stressful situations, you can overcome your fears and regain control over your life.

By following these steps and incorporating detachment techniques into your daily life, you can effectively manage and overcome your fear of public speaking. Remember, it's a process that requires practice and patience, but with dedication, you can conquer your anxiety and become a more confident speaker.