Menjadi Orang Tua Yg Dirindukan Syurga | Ust. Budi Ashari, Lc

Introduction

This tutorial is designed to guide parents on how to raise children in a way that aligns with Islamic teachings, based on the insights shared by Ust. Budi Ashari in the video "Menjadi Orang Tua Yg Dirindukan Syurga." It emphasizes the responsibilities of parenthood, the importance of character building, and the spiritual obligations towards children.

Step 1: Understand the Divine Nature of Parenthood

• Recognize that your children are a result of Allah’s will, not merely a product of your desires.
• Reflect on the concept of destiny as stated in the Quran (QS.28:68, QS.42:49-50), which emphasizes that children are part of a divine plan.
• Accept the responsibility that comes with this gift, as it is an amanah (trust) from Allah (QS.8:27-28).

Step 2: Fulfill Your Promise to Allah

• Acknowledge that your desire to have children is a commitment you have made to Allah.
• Ensure that you honor this commitment by actively nurturing and guiding your children (QS.5:1, QS.17:34).
• Be aware that you will be held accountable for your role as a parent.

Step 3: Educate with Intention

• Focus on raising righteous and pious children rather than expecting them to excel in every field (QS.21:105).
• Understand that good upbringing requires effort, and do not expect positive outcomes without putting in the necessary work (QS.11:46, QS.19:59).

Step 4: Teach According to Their Nature

• Educate your children in accordance with their fitrah (natural disposition) (QS.30:30).
• Be patient and observant, adapting your methods to suit their individual needs and personalities.

Step 5: Lead by Example

• Strive to be a good role model for your children; your character and actions should reflect the values you wish to instill in them.
• Remember that you cannot expect your children to embody qualities you do not demonstrate yourself.

Step 6: Balance Rights and Responsibilities

• Understand the mutual rights and duties between you and your children. Before demanding rights from them, ensure you fulfill your obligations towards them (QS.2:83, QS.4:36).
• Provide for their emotional, physical, and spiritual needs as part of your parenting duties.

Step 7: Commit to Lifelong Education

• Make the effort to educate and nurture your children continuously, even until your last days (QS.15:99).
• Focus on the process of education rather than being overly concerned with the final outcomes (QS.11:93).

Conclusion

Raising children in accordance with Islamic principles is a profound responsibility that requires dedication and mindfulness. By understanding your role, committing to your promises, and leading by example, you can nurture a generation of righteous individuals. As you embark on this journey, remember that the essence of parenting lies in continuous learning and unwavering love for your children.