The Let Them Theory: Self-Healing untuk Si Tukang Overthinking - Maudy Ayunda's Booklist

Introduction

This tutorial explores the key principles from Maudy Ayunda's video on "The Let Them Theory," inspired by Mel Robbins' book. This approach encourages individuals, especially those prone to overthinking and seeking approval from others, to focus on self-empowerment and personal growth. By learning to let go of external judgments and expectations, you can foster a healthier mindset and enhance your self-healing journey.

Step 1: Embrace Comparison as a Tool for Growth

• Understand that comparing yourself to others can be detrimental if focused on negativity.
• Shift your perspective to view comparisons as a source of inspiration.
• Recognize that everyone has their own journey; use the achievements of others to motivate rather than discourage yourself.

Step 2: Let Them Leave Without Taking it Personally

• Acknowledge that when people exit your life, it does not reflect your worth.
• Understand that relationships may change, and this does not signify rejection.
• Focus on the lessons learned from these relationships rather than dwelling on loss.

Step 3: Let Them Judge You

• Accept that judgment from others is inevitable; it’s a part of life.
• Realize that not everyone’s opinion is a reflection of your value or capabilities.
• Shift your mindset to prioritize self-approval over seeking validation from others.

Step 4: Adopt a 'So What?' Mentality

• When faced with criticism or judgment, ask yourself "So what?" to detach from negative emotions.
• This question helps you evaluate the situation objectively and empowers you to move forward without being bogged down by others' opinions.
• Practice this regularly to strengthen your resilience against external judgments.

Conclusion

By applying the principles of "The Let Them Theory," you can cultivate a mindset that prioritizes personal growth and self-acceptance. Embrace comparisons as motivation, detach from the fear of rejection, and let go of the need for approval. These steps will guide you toward a more empowered and liberated life. As you progress, remember to focus on your own journey and allow yourself the freedom to grow without the weight of others' expectations.