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Step-by-Step Tutorial: How to Successfully Build a Relationship with a Filipina

1. Initial Meeting and Flirting:

   • Special Agent Jack Boer met a Filipina waitress in SIU City while on a business trip.
   • He thought she was flirting with him when she brought him a cappuccino with a heart in the foam.
   • Despite initial rejections, Jack continued to show interest and asked her out multiple times.

2. Building Connection:

   • After returning to the US, Jack and the Filipina, Glattus, continued to communicate over WhatsApp for 45 days.
   • They discussed their relationship expectations, handling stress, and what makes a strong relationship.

3. Planning a Visit:

   • Jack planned a vacation trip back to the Philippines to see Glattus.
   • He sent a letter and 10,000 pesos through Glattus to request her supervisor for time off during his visit.

4. Surprise Visits:

   • Jack surprised Glattus for her birthday by coordinating with her supervisor to keep her late at work.
   • He proposed to her in the same restaurant where they first met.

5. Long-Distance Relationship:

   • Jack and Glattus maintained a long-distance relationship over the next three years, with Jack visiting the Philippines multiple times.
   • They shared their location data and iPhone passcodes to build trust and security in their relationship.

6. Financial Planning:

   • Jack and Glattus set up a savings arrangement for their wedding fund, emphasizing the importance of saving for the future.
   • They agreed on contributing to a passbook account for their wedding expenses, with Jack matching Glattus's contributions.

7. Cultural Understanding:

   • Jack learned about Filipino culture, including the importance of addressing jealousy and insecurities in relationships.
   • He emphasized the need for open communication and understanding each other's perspectives to build a strong and secure relationship.

8. Family and Future Planning:

   • Jack and Glattus discussed family finances, education savings plans for nieces and nephews, and the importance of saving for emergencies and the future.
   • They planned for a traditional wedding in the Philippines and managed their finances together effectively.

9. Ongoing Relationship:

   • Despite challenges and cultural differences, Jack and Glattus maintained a loving and empathetic relationship, showing that understanding and communication are key to a successful partnership.

10. Life Updates:

    • Jack shared personal updates about his son's schooling, family life, and daily routines, highlighting the importance of family and supporting each other in daily activities.

By following these steps and maintaining open communication, trust, and understanding, you can build a successful and fulfilling relationship with a Filipina or anyone from a different cultural background.